Real Talk: Stop Doing Shit You Hate

March 10, 2017
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Adulting is hard, you guys. Rent, Netflix, more bills, careers, finding “the one”, 401k (not to be mistaken with the new Bruno song, cleaning the toilet… *sigh.)

But here’s the thing – life’s too fucking short. I remember being 16 and thinking I was going to be married by 22 and then have kids by 25 (LOL). And then I turned 21 and was living off gas station groceries and fried egg sandwiches. At 23 I was crying at my desk at work while binge-eating donuts. Today, at 26, I’m happy. Stressed, anxious sometimes, busy as fuck, but genuinely happy, and I’ll tell you why.

Stop doing shit you hate. You have all the opportunity to crush it. There is no doubt in my mind that you are going to kill it and that is what I want to talk to you about today. I really want to talk about PP: patience and passion. Passion: there are way too many people in this room right now that are doing stuff they hate. Please stop doing stuff you hate! There is no reason in {2017} to do shit you hate! Promise me you won’t, because you can lose just as much money being happy as hell.

Per Gary Vee, I stopped doing shit I hated.

This happened within the past year, actually.

WORK: Yes – you have to keep the lights on. Yes – you need to work. But when you find yourself at the point of breaking at your job, it’s time to leave. I started in retail. Loved the people, hated working 16 hours a day and weekends, cried, and left. I found my passion for tech at my next job. Learned I suck at cold calling, but tech is really cool, and worked my way up. Then I got bored, overworked, and left. Before I left my jobs, I cried a lot. Not because I’m a girl, but because I am a human and I have emotions and when shit SUCKS it really takes the life out of you. Get out if you’re at that bad place with your career. Yes – you gotta pay the bills but at least find something remotely stimulating as a means.

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LIFE: Find your passion. Is there such a thing as a dream job? Does it stay a dream? For some people yes. My dream is to be a Real Housewife of OC and play with puppies all day but that is a dream (maybe someday?). Be realistic. Find things you like to do, and fucking do it. 

I found myself bored, stressed, and tired of coming home to reality tv and aimlessly scrolling through IG. After following blogs, always telling my boyfriend look at their lives, loook looook, scroooolll (sound like you?), that’s when I decided to start my blog. It’s something that motivates me daily- thinking of ideas, posts, outfits, pictures, colors. It’s my creative outlet. It’s something after my 9-5 that I can look forward to. Find yours. Find something exciting to come home to after work that continues to push you.

I enjoy fashion. I like clothes. Wonder why half of my wardrobe is from Abercrombie? Because I work there. Part time. Once a week. Not for the money. But because clothes and visual presentations make me SANE. I wanted to be surrounded by it so I figured I’d go out there and do it. Again, find what makes you happy and get involved.

You love working out? Be a part-time fitness instructor. Sell shakes. Start a workout IG. Coach your friends.

You love design? Sign up for a LAB MSP class. Learn how to sew. Go to the Goodwill and DIY it up with some old furniture.

You love to make music? Fucking make it.

I feel like this is super obvious but like, it’s hard to go from wishing and wanting to doing. You’ll be uncomfortable at times. Embrace it. Bullshit in your life? Get rid of it. There are 24 hours in a day. I can say I spend 90% of the hours in a day doing things that not only pay my bills but things I LOVE. Sleeping, eating, working, blogging, folding clothes. Stop doing shit you hate. You deserve it.

If you’re not sure where to start or need some real help (like from a scholarly source, lol) check out some of these reads:

#AskGaryVee: One Entrepreneur’s Take on Leadership, Social Media, and Self-Awareness

The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck – Mark Manson

You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life – Jen Sincero

Can you guys relate? Would love to know what you think in the comments.
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*photos courtesy of Career Contessa

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  • Anung

    Girl, preach it. I’ve been doing this for a few years now and I’m loving it. FYI Jen Sincero has a new book coming out next month.

    March 16, 2017 at 10:17 am Reply
  • Leslie Benson

    This is awesome! Loved reading!

    May 20, 2017 at 2:31 pm Reply
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